Posts Tagged ‘tarot’

The realization that a spouse is cheating is a terrible moment for any woman, regardless of her strength or age, and with or without young children in the home, the blow can strip the meaning from a relationship. Once the shock wears off, it is time to decide to stay, leave, or have him leave.

I came across a great clip, Should Women Stand By Cheaters?.

Notice, there is a woman on the discussion panel who is able to draw a distinction between a fellow’s looking for love and engaging in thrill seeking behavior?

One of the most difficult readings to do are those where the querent, usually the woman, cannot see the subject, usually the man, in the same light that the cards, or a numerology analysis for that matter, indicate.

Often, the cheating male hasn’t one emotional card, which would be something in the suit of cups, in the spread. When this can be worked through in the reading, meaning the querent understands that this act was not emotionally based for the cheater, moving on to the decision making process can be a bit less daunting. When I read for you, I won’t skip this step as many readers will.

Now that you have worked through the reading, should you stay?

There are many factors that I, as your reader, can see and feel during this second part of your reading. Your choices will be greater than you had thought. Let’s try to stick with those that are non-violent!

Save time, and money, with an e-mail reading today!

Ask an Expert - Visit my Virtual Office at LivePerson

Even with a reader’s advice, which addresses the mental and emotional aspect of your past, present, and future, only you can analyze how a drastic change in your living circumstances will impact your finances and your plans for your future with your partner.  Take your time to weigh things carefully.  A new adventure awaits you, even if you decide to continue the relationship.


Read Full Post »

Whether it is a cheating spouse or a difficult relative, many readings center around power issues that are difficult to grapple with when they needn’t be. What makes these issues difficult? The prohibition against extended anger.

The prohibition against extended anger isn’t talked about among men nearly as much as it is among women. In fact, women, in general, seem to fear anger that lingers past a few days.

Anger will eat you up eventually.

You need to let go of your anger.

Why keep drawing in such negative energy?

These are all those little warnings that you shouldn’t continue with anger with a situation or person. Far from being a comfort, the warnings serve to prevent the exercise of personal power, to insist on changes either with a situation or within yourself, to prevent the event from happening again. In other words, to keep you within the “well socialized woman” passive stance.

Granted, there are situations where expressing anger can lead to danger, but it is the form of the expression that is the problem, not the anger itself. So why is it so important, to some, that you “let go” of a necessary tool for survival?

You are less accessible and your anger reveals some unpleasant realities about life.

This isn’t necessarily a bad thing for the angry person, but is frightening to those accustomed to your being emotionally available, and this should be a red flag. The concern being expressed over your anger isn’t based on your needs at all, but theirs. You are more aware of where your limits are and are ready to insist on their being respected. Very inconvenient for those who enjoy talking you into participating in conversations and activities that are not necessarily your cup of tea.

You a step outside of a shared mentality. You become an outsider to many, which is extremely important to people afraid to make the same sorts of changes in their own lives. You don’t seem nearly as safe when you start rearranging your life, using the anger as the catalyst for positive change. Denying and letting go of your anger might be the worst thing you can do to yourself, to make others more comfortable.

Embrace your anger. Explore the feelings and take the actions you deem necessary, as long as they are not violent, against others. Recreate your inner space by incorporating this new found knowledge. Raise your standards and expectations where needed and hold your head high.

It isn’t the anger you must fear, it is the absence of change.

Read Full Post »

Keeping the interest flowing in your relationship require more thought than physical effort, but is also require we let go of some unhealthy notions about love!

Of all the greatest issues that face people today, keeping the life in a relationship is probably the most vexing and taxing. To keep that initial spark alive while coping with day to day issues is almost too much. There is a basic misconception that ends most relationships before they begin, much less flourish.

If we step back for a moment and really examine what hapens when things start going wrong, we see a common thread. Yes, it’s communication…but it’s not quite that simple. It’s the type of communication that makes all the difference in the world.

Most people think saying “I love you” on a regular basis should take care of things. For men, regular physical intimacy becomes a focus that doesn’t fulfill their needs for appreciation. For women, the flowers, chocolates and courtship behaviors just create more tension, especially if they are expensive. So, how do we bridge the gap and keep love alive?

Look around and what your spouse or long term beloved does for you on a daily basis. Not deep kisses and extended love making, but thngs like taking out the trash, washing the socks, taking care of the car-as long as it isn’t their hobby. It’s these little things that need a “Thank You” everyday. This shows that you are paying attention, that you value these chores and your not having to nag to have them completed. These little adffirmations also let your beloved know that you keep an eye on their moods, physical health, energy level, and well-being. This is the appreciation that men want. This is the effort that women need to see.

It is our daily life that we share with our spouse or long term beloved, and it is this day after day contact that creates “Forever”. It’s not the stuff of fairy tales, it’s not the unreasonable expectations used to make people buy rings and flowers and expensive meals. It is the deep seated observance that becomes a secular devotion, and the deepest, forever kind of love that we truly seek.



Powered by Qumana

Read Full Post »

My path to reading tarot cards began outside of books and far away from the Tarot-Waite deck most readers start with. There were several reasons but many still hold true for me.

The problems with Rider Waite is the abundance of yellow, and the insistence of some readers that the cards be read based on the race of the client. How does one accurately read when that particular prejudice is woven into the meanings of the cards? Such predetermination has no place in readings but there are still people being taught to use the cards with this set of blinders firmly strapped in place. There is no defense for this.

Needless to say, newer decks have been better for those of us who have issues with colors blocking sensitivity. Try looking at a picture with yellow scattered about and see if you can have any deep thoughts without becoming irritated or having to put the picture aside. The field of color taps directly into the subconscious where are deepest reactions and primal responses rest. Yellow works to poke at this area with a sharp stick, causing it to receded rather than come forth and spread its tendrils.

I can’t remember my first deck, but it wasn’t the traditional Rider Waite. I have enjoyed using decks by Scapini, I have used round cards, I have used several decks called “The Witches Tarot”-none of which looked just like the other. I have found that images with rounded edges, lacking harsh outlines, and having deep rich colors work best for me. They warm the psyche into playing along the energy streams, allowing me to see and feel clearly.

If you are looking for your first deck of cards you might be comfortable with the Rider Waite, but look at other decks to get the feel. It could be that you are better suited to something that strokes your primal self. Happiness is a warm deck of cards.

Read Full Post »

One of the most difficult moments between clients and readers are those first few where previous experiences, misinformation, and prejudices assert themselves. The connection between people on the spiritual, intuitive / psychic level is where most people fail. Notice, I said people, not just readers.

Every reader or counselor has their own methods for establishing a connection. Some, usually those with either little experience or who believe that theatrics will enhance the experience for the client, will take several minutes to find the “connection” before they begin a reading. Those with more experience, and probably a bit more sensitivity, will most likely ask for names, birth dates, and a specific question – especially if the reading is by phone or in an online chat, and then begin the reading – more about this later. There are, however, several things to listen for, especially if nervous about the connection between yourself and a psychic reader.

1) If the potential client wants to “test the psychic”, the reader suggests they seek information elsewhere.

This is a pretty good sign that they aren’t afraid to read and are not afraid to refuse to play games. This psychic reader is not so insecure that they will try to sell you into a reading. If you aren’t ready, they send you away. Many think this is a sign of the reader’s incompetence, but look a little closer. The psychic reader who sends a potential client away has enough confidence to read for their current clientele on a regular basis and will reserve energy for them, first. New clients are not an issue that weighs so heavily that the psychic reader is willing to constantly “audition”..

2) If a reader consents to a test, they talk about the current situation.

They aren’t going to waste energy talking about missing dog’s first name during a test. They will, however, display insight without having been told about personal current events. Someone who can talk about your present without having personally witnessed it and without being told about it, is able to project the most likely results, and there might be more than a few possibilities! Be aware that this might not be a pleasant experience for the hopeful client, but remember that psychic readers do not set the future in stone and they aren’t reading those who are not part of the client’s immediate circle of concern.

3) If you have had more than 3 readings on the same issue, the ethical reader will probably turn you away.

There are people who “psychic shop”. They seek a specific answer and won’t be happy until they hear it. The desire is control, not insight. Most ethical readers will suggest a shopper accept the information they have heard, then either wait to see what happens or take action to change things. Another reading will not help. The ethical psychic would rather earn their keep where there is true need.

4) If you don’t have a specific question, they suggest an e-mail reading.

Usually, general readings are long and costly if the fee is on a per minute basis. The ethical reader will have a flat fee for general readings, the results of which will be sent via e-mail. A client can sit and read the information once it arrives, contemplate, and read it again. This tends to help organize thoughts so that a per minute reading on a specific question, and much briefer. This is the way I like to do Numerology readings as they can be over 20 pages long in some instances.

It is difficult to set aside some of the fantastic tales about psychics finding lost items, and revealing information that they would have not way of knowing, but step back, consider the sources, and then move past them. The ethical psychic is rather choosey about who they connect with, read for, and how they will expend their energy. Be ready for a serious reading, and listen for integrity from the reader.

Powered by Qumana

Read Full Post »