One of my favorite blogs is idcheaters.com. Lively conversations erupt on relationship issues with an enthusiasm rarely found anywhere else. The input also gets my wicked little wheels turning. One of the recent topics surrounds jealousy, of course, and the associated behaviors it inspires.
For all of the love professed in relationships, and all the expectations set forth for us by society and religion, people rarely analyze why jealousy is such a huge feature of our psyche. Is it learned, or is it instinct?
Have you ever seen Mutiny on the Bounty, the version with Marlon Brando playing the part of Mr. Christian?
The Bounty drops anchor in the harbor of a Polynesian, I assume, island where the natives see sex as a great way to say hello. If there was ever a Garden of Eden, these natives never left it. The people are portrayed as happy, loving, and bereft of jealousies. Sex is the extended handshake.
Yes, it is a movie, but it also reflects what some people believe is nature’s true intent. Genetic diversity, accomplished through sex and childbearing with different partners, is good for the species. Doesn’t jealousy work against that mandate?
As children we must learn to share because nature drives us to cling to adults for attention. Otherwise, we may never be fed or clothed. It is instinct, appropriate during a time of great dependency on adults, but we eventually learn that cooperation and sharing furthers not only personal causes and goals, but also improves our relationships with others in our tribe or family. Based on this, jealousy must be a sign of immaturity, on one level, or the expression of the powerless and dependent at another level.
Readings Surrounding Jealousy
Where Tarot readings ferret out what has yet to happen, I prefer using Numerology for individuals questioning their own motives behind their jealousies. We are often unable to completely remove our tendencies in this area, but knowing where they are in our personal birth numbers helps us weather those storms without destroying relationships that are otherwise fulfilling and productive. Finding areas of “numerical balance” when jealousy might rear its ugly head, has been one of my personal tools for quite some time now.
If you are struggling with jealousy issues, consider taking a look at your partner’s birth numbers as well. His or her birth numbers may reveal the traits that trigger conflicts with the jealousy you are experiencing.